Just now after opening my lotus note mail finally i managed to find the much awaited mail from RCM.It was the mail confirming that i've successfully passed the ELTP test.As right now there is no one in the office to pat me on the back so i am left to do it myself.
This was the practice i have been doing for more than a month...no not of patting...it was searching for the RCM mail in my inbox.So this will be the last post i am mentioning the test & all that upheaval created by this in IBM ELTP community.
So Congrats to all who passed this test successfully & my good wishes are with those who somehow couldn't.
Tuesday, February 26, 2008
Sunday, February 24, 2008
Expectations... a word shouldn't exist
Shifting from college life to corporate one may not have done any miracle in my life, but it has made me emotionally stronger, i guess.While i was mentioning the changes in my life during this shift, i hadn't mentioned a gr8 change in my thinking,probably it had to & should be mentioned seperately.
I've been hurt a number of times in my life,or better say this was the only consistent process in my life so far.Nothing changed from the age of my consciousness to college life, frequency might be changing.
Friends,relatives,college-mates,seniors,juniors,professors all have been a source of cheating.The reason behind all was not that they were not good enough to interact with,or i ain't the one deserving some thing better than what i got.The thing was my expectations from them.I may not be right always,but here as this is me presenting everything on canvass,so can't put the picture from other's view.So i can't say i was always right or was always wrong,but one thing which was & in all tenses will be wrong is Expectation.
I don't hate this word,coz i deny the existence of this in my life.You know it is the only source of dispute between two matured responsible person.
If both of you are right then why is the problem?Why all the misunderstandings if any?Its all due to difference in the level of expectations you have from the other one.If you are in any kind of relationship, with someone,you cant force the other one to put exactly the same amount of commitment to the relationship.(Then how can you expect this?) Its also not easy to make both magnitude equal, infact when testd on a minute scale its almost impossible.Whenever this disparity arises this is going to create a misunderstanding.If you are lucky enough that both of you can ignore each other's mistake then you can avoid any dispute upto a certain extent.
But if anyone of you fail to do that,outcome wont be pleasant.
So if you really want to equate expectations from both sides which has different values,(in most of the cases) the simple & i believe the only way to do it, is by multiplying both sides with zero.Thats what i have done for my side,so now i won't be hurt,i wont be a cause of dispute coz i dont expect that a thing done by other one wasnt what he couldn't,but still there are misunderstandings with the persons i am having any business with.
Reason behind is the other one hasn't nullify his expectations.So if something unwanted happens he would be the only person to be hurt,i am the safe one.Now i dont find anyone cheating on me, coz i never find anything he is doing unpredicted.
So i have successfully tested this method on myself,but still its not complete as it needs two person to test its effect on any relationship.Infact i need to check out for loop-holes of this method if any.
I am waiting for the other one.
I've been hurt a number of times in my life,or better say this was the only consistent process in my life so far.Nothing changed from the age of my consciousness to college life, frequency might be changing.
Friends,relatives,college-mates,seniors,juniors,professors all have been a source of cheating.The reason behind all was not that they were not good enough to interact with,or i ain't the one deserving some thing better than what i got.The thing was my expectations from them.I may not be right always,but here as this is me presenting everything on canvass,so can't put the picture from other's view.So i can't say i was always right or was always wrong,but one thing which was & in all tenses will be wrong is Expectation.
I don't hate this word,coz i deny the existence of this in my life.You know it is the only source of dispute between two matured responsible person.
If both of you are right then why is the problem?Why all the misunderstandings if any?Its all due to difference in the level of expectations you have from the other one.If you are in any kind of relationship, with someone,you cant force the other one to put exactly the same amount of commitment to the relationship.(Then how can you expect this?) Its also not easy to make both magnitude equal, infact when testd on a minute scale its almost impossible.Whenever this disparity arises this is going to create a misunderstanding.If you are lucky enough that both of you can ignore each other's mistake then you can avoid any dispute upto a certain extent.
But if anyone of you fail to do that,outcome wont be pleasant.
So if you really want to equate expectations from both sides which has different values,(in most of the cases) the simple & i believe the only way to do it, is by multiplying both sides with zero.Thats what i have done for my side,so now i won't be hurt,i wont be a cause of dispute coz i dont expect that a thing done by other one wasnt what he couldn't,but still there are misunderstandings with the persons i am having any business with.
Reason behind is the other one hasn't nullify his expectations.So if something unwanted happens he would be the only person to be hurt,i am the safe one.Now i dont find anyone cheating on me, coz i never find anything he is doing unpredicted.
So i have successfully tested this method on myself,but still its not complete as it needs two person to test its effect on any relationship.Infact i need to check out for loop-holes of this method if any.
I am waiting for the other one.
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